99-year-old man beaten over parking spot
Sheikh Naseem wasn't exactly your traditional Muslim. The Staten Island math teacher was born in Pakistan, but he's half Norwegian and Unitarian, having moved to the U.S. 20 years ago. He goes by the name Eddie, and enjoys ribs and the occasional drink. ![]()
Her husband got her to drink, eat pork and wear short clothes
But two failed marriages outside Islam convinced he needed to take a more traditional route. So five months ago, he wed Rabia Sarwar in an arranged marriage. Though she too had been in the U.S. for 10 years, the Pakistani woman had "never been been exposed to American culture," Eddie told the New York Post. So he decided to help her with that...
"He got her to drink alcohol, eat pork and change her clothes," says he lawyer, Joe Licitra. "She wanted to dress traditionally. I think he was a cruel person who preyed on her," he said.
| She slashed at his throat, apparently fearful she'd end up like the Muslims in Indonesia |
But at 3 a.m. yesterday morning, he must have recalculated his thoughts on his wife's happiness. Rabia is accused of climbing on her husband's chest and slashing at his neck while he slept, reportedly screaming, "It's time for you to die!" Eddie awoke to find a knife at his throat and begged her to think of his two kids from a former marriage.
"She just screamed, 'They are going to be orphans now!'" he told the Post. "She kept on coming after me with the knife and I grabbed it and broke it into two pieces and ran out of the room."
But while Rabia may suck at the art of throat slitting -- Eddie only had surface wounds -- at least she thought ahead to hide all the phones so he couldn't call an ambulance. So he banged on neighbors' doors till he got help. He's since been released from a hospital.
Rabia, who's been hospitalized for depression before, has now been charged with attempted murder, assault, and criminal possession of a weapon.In a written statement, Rabia wrote that "I did my best to cut his throat. But the next moment he jumped on me and grabbed me."
According to the statement, she feels her husband duped her into marriage. She claims Eddie went to her family to ask for a bride. But after they married, she found that he'd mostly dated white women, had been married before and liked to drink. He'd also said he was a devout Muslim, but she later discovered he was Unitarian.
She further wrote that his favorite writer was Salman Rushdie, author of The Satanic Verses, which caused such a stir in the fundamentalist Muslim world that Iran officially put a hit on Rushdie.
She says Eddie also threatened to hurt her family is she bolted, saying he would sue them for $30,000 and leave them broke. Though Rabia previously lived in New Jersey, her family remains in Pakistan.







THIS IS SO SICK, IF YOU LIVE IN AMERICA IT MEANS YOU ACT AMERICAN I BELIVE THESE PEOPLE ARE SO BRAIN WASHED, WHY IN THE HELL DID SHE MARRY HIM, SHE KNEW DAM WELL HE DID ALL THOSE THINGS, WHY DID SHE JUST NOT MARRY HIM, EDDIE I SURE HOPE YOUR GOING TO BE OKAY, AS FAR AS THE WITCH, JUST HANG HER
Posted 10/30/2009 at 12:44:46 PMRABIA, FIRST OF ALL YOU ARE SUPOSE TO BE A GROWN WM, IF IT WAS AGINST YOUR REGELION TO PART TAKE IN THESE THINGS WHY DID YOU DO IT, MABLE YOU NEED TO MOVE BACK TO YOUR COUNTRY, BECAUSE WHEN YOU LIVE IN AMERICA, BE AN AMERICAN, EDDIE, DO DEVOICE THIS CRAZY LADY, YOUR LIFE IS IMPORTEN
Posted 10/30/2009 at 12:56:43 PMOK first warning sign to Eddie was, "Rabia, who's been hospitalized for depression before.." I wish the article was a bit more detailed with a better explanation about the reason why she would try to slit his throat. I mean really because she ate some pork? What, did he have her at gunpoint when this happened?
Posted 10/30/2009 at 01:28:24 PMOH MY GOD. You know, before you make such hateful, ignorant statements, you really must learn the culture. Do you not know ANYTHING of Muslim women or Muslim people in general? They are raised so amazingly different than Christians or Jews. The husband is the head of the house, and he is not to be questioned. Also, being Muslim is a way of life from BIRTH. Being an "American" is being proud of our melting pot...not spewing hate and venom?!
Posted 10/30/2009 at 02:02:43 PMI'm sorry to hear of how Rabia felt she was duped. Just because we're Americans doesn't mean we agree with everything in this culture. We exist here nevertheless. Marriage is a commitment that people can take very, very seriously. And going out of your "norm" could have been tried. But, eventually, it looks like her conscience got to her. That can happen. We can regress to previously held standards and should find spouses that share our ideals. Christianity and God have been subjected to "outside" forces as well.
Posted 10/30/2009 at 03:55:03 PM@Mare - I'm not sure if you know this or not, but your CAPS LOCK is on. Oh, and you're also a bigot.
Posted 10/30/2009 at 04:15:26 PMI respect everyone for their beliefs. I just wish there was some type of boundary where atleast in the Muslim religion where the parents would atleast give time for their daughter to go on some dates and get to know the man she's about to marry, before sticking her into a marriage without knowing if she'll be happy or not. I'd think the Muslims would want their daughter to be happily married. Also, I know it's part of the religion, but there is things that are easily slipped by the parents without them knowing who their daughter is really marrying. This world isn't like how it use to be years ago, you can't rely on people like decades ago we could. So it's like leaving your daughter with a 50% chance of being happy or a 50% chance of hating her life everyday. If they could do a little more to make sure things in a marriage would be more stable than that'd really be great.
Posted 10/31/2009 at 02:27:36 AMIt's good they weren't in Saudi Arabia, Iran, or Afghanistan--because if she'd tried to kill him in one of those countries, she'd be beheaded, hung from a crane, or stoned to death.
She should be grateful she's in America, where we actually have a justice system.
Posted 10/31/2009 at 12:37:30 PMCommon interests go a long way, y'all. And if you're going to arrange a marriage maybe do a little background digging first, hmm?
Posted 10/31/2009 at 02:30:30 PMI dont know if I am the only one who read the fact that "Eddie" lied, so all you people are missing the fact that, when he went to her family, he said he was a devout Muslim, and after they were married found out he wasn't Muslims take marriage very seriously and try many courses before divorce. The fact that people state why not just leave, is why this country views marriage as nothing but a piece of paper. And for the record I am Muslim and was raised in this country, and let me tell you there is NO SUCH THING AS BEING AMERICAN, this country consists of too many different cultures and is such a melting pot of people theres no real such thing as american, not matter how hard to try to convince yourself there is.
Posted 10/31/2009 at 02:50:11 PMmare = ridiculous on any and all levels
Posted 10/31/2009 at 02:52:56 PMThere is such a thing as D-I-V-O-R-C-E. I would think its a better option to murder..
Posted 10/31/2009 at 03:56:56 PMWas Rabia Sarwar sexually abused or raped during her marriage? Did her husband made her perform sexual acts against her will? He made her drunk and ate pork. It is time for her lawyer to look deeper. it time for all of EVERYONE to look at other factors? Everyone is attacking her religion. The mere fact that the marriage was in the honeymoon period, her lawyer must have female counselors talk with her. Sex is a taboo subject not usually discuss in this woman’s culture and threatening to leave her might actually made her suicidal. According to the New York Post her husband claimed that she is only 6 months in the US. There no way she will voluntarily eat port, go to night clubs and discard her traditional way of life. The media is claiming only religious observances drove her to committing acts of violence against her husbands. BUT is that the only reason? Her lawyer needs to call in expert and the Muslim community need to lend some support.
Have any of you heard about mental and emotional abused. I want to think that this woman was abused by this man. This is his second marriage and he choose someone from rural Pakistan. He could have been threatening to leave her, sexually abusing her and possible rape. There is dozens of men who return to find women in India, Pakistan, married them and then abuse them. This might be a possible case. He knew all along that he married a woman who is very traditional. 6 months for adapting to American culture. At some point she would have told him that she did not want to eat pork and drink alcohol. He did not respect her or her traditions.
Is appears as thought Rabia was tricked into an arranged marriage. Her discovery of who her husband is together with his dehumanizing treatment of her as a human being sent her into despair. This woman maybe was dependent on him for all her financial needs. He might have been abusing her sexually, and mentally that’s why she snapped. Her husband traveled to Pakistan to select a woman of very conservative values and tricked her with lies into marrying him. Many men leave American and traveled to other countries seeking a submissive bride. This is a good case- he had two failed marriages. He could not find a suitable bride in America. So he and his family went to Pakistan in order for a submissive bride. She might have suffered the shame and embarrassment of telling others of her situation. This is man tricked her. She is not a native speaker of English and her culture is not to tell others about her domestic situation. This shows that she thought that her life is at end- threats about her family.
What happened that night? Did he force himself on her? When he forced her to drink alcohol did he did he sexually abused her? She could have been easily been drunk. She needs an interpreter, counselor and a good lawyer.
She now needs sound legal advice- he is going to divorce her without spousal support. Also her immigration status needs to be look into. When a man abuse a woman this way it appears it is more shameful. His threats to have her family repay $30 000 is just goes to she was indeed abused.
Many men traveled to these countries for submissive brides. After 6 months she should have indeed received her Green Card. He might have been threatening her to send her back to her family. One must understand the culture of these violent acts.
Posted 10/31/2009 at 05:17:56 PMWas Rabia Sarwar sexually abused or raped during her marriage? No he loved her pet goat much more than her .There will be more info at her trial.
Posted 10/31/2009 at 07:54:36 PM@mare... you are amazingly stupid. i think you supporting the drunk husband because you are a piece of doo-doo just like him. A deceitful, low life drunk. You were supporting him like you want to date him instead. Did you understand the whole article or are you really just ignorant? Geez.
Posted 11/01/2009 at 04:33:16 AM