this is some messed up shit. rip shawty

This is so sad. We all make mistakes, more than one usually. Seems as though she had low self esteem. This is something ALL parents must talk to our kids about - self esteem.

So so sad. I still remember how terribly embarrassed I was when, after having a long time crush on a boy in my class, I finally wrote him a note that was intercepted by one of the "mean girls" and shared with everyone. It was humiliating and awful and I wanted to immediately transfer to another school, but of course had to stick it out and eventually it went away. I don't know if I ever would have gone so far as to make the mistake this little girl did, it's hard to imagine a modern 13 year old being as innocent and clueless as I was at the time. I feel so sorry for her and her parents and so angry at the classmates who teased and taunted her. I hope at least some of them feel bad about it.

I think the most pitiful image is that she hanged herself from her canopy bed with a pink scarf; somehow it's more awful to imagine a frilly girly bedroom and a fashion accessory as part of a suicide.

These stories are profoundly sad. Young girls, desperately in need of admiration, of being desired, of being chosen, who follow the examples set by society, tragically, are usually alone when they deal with the feelings of despair and haunting aloneness.

Many times, they do not even know how to verbalize what it is like, to their parents, to be taunted and insulted by their peers, and be taken seriously.

The mixed messages an adult might be able to sort out are not easy at all for still cooking, hormone surged sub-adults to evaluate. Teenagers are not exactly famous for their judgment and astute shrewdness.

Look at the "reality" tv shows that hog the airwaves that concentrate on women flinging themselves at a guy. They're subjected to humiliating competitions and contrived situations.

Those shows are barely disguised soft porn, sneaking in under the radar as "reality."

Most people, nevermind teenagers, do not know that all of those reality shows are manufactured. The contestants themselves often do not really know what they are participating in because if they did -- and had time to think it over -- they wouldn't be quite so quick to play.

All together now: "Well, the contestants signed on the dotted line, they must have known what they were getting themselves into, so it's all on them."

The dotted line ends pages of legal text that took a lawyer with a juris doctorate to compose. Unless the contestant is also a lawyer, or hires a lawyer to read it for them, they are sheep at slaughter.

If only all parties were of the same legal skill and had such meager scruples.

When young girls see example after example of women practically racing to strip to get some guy to look at them with hunger, they get the message, loud and clear: to get boys to look at you like that, take off your clothes.

Our whole society is practically begging them to, for our entertainment.

Her parents will suffer the rest of their lives over this tragedy. It's the sort of thing that can derail entire lives. It's the sort of thing that can drive a dad insane.

I knew Hope, personnaly, she went to my school and was one of my friends. She had so many friends, and so many people taunted her, even just jokingly, I never thought someone as cheerful as her would ever do soemthing like this. It still haunts me that I'll never see her again.

Sad story, teen suicide is so prevalent and so many succumb to peer pressure. The parents "grounding her" was probably the most logical thing to do, but unless it was matched with equal measures of love and support than it probably just made he more resentful and reinforced her feelings of low self esteem.

Kids that age are so precariously balanced and their peers can be so cruel and relentless. It might have started as an innocent thing, but snowballed into something beyond her measure to comprehend.

May she rest in peace.

shitt, this is heaps sad. poor girl aye. RIP xoxx

its sad she felt she had no where to turn than to her own death. people are cruel.

This is uneeded! She felt alone, some one needsed to help her not mack her sign a contract! how stupied! if her friends had to protect her in the hallway then there problmes!

First of all, my thoughts and prayers go out to this family. My favorite uncle commited suicide when I was 12 and I know what living the rest of your life without that person is like. I do hope they can one day, not nessecarily move on, but learn to cope better.

Second, I agree with alexa. We live in a society where women are exploited every day simply because "sex sells." Well, I for one am tired of it. I do not want my 4 year old daughter to grow up thinking she has/needs to show her "goodies" to get respect. Or my 4 year old neice who is "chubby" to grow up thinking that if she is to ammount to anything she must stick her fingers down her throat, make herself throw up, and "miracously" become skinny to have any chance in this world.

Its time we start teachin our young girls that they are more than their bodies and looks. Poor Hope found that out the hard way.

Third, to Seth. I realize that from time to time people make asinine, stupid comments to get arise out of others, and you are no exception. It is sick freaks that think like you that make me fearful for my daughter. You make me sick. Here this poor girl has taken her life, her parents, friends, and family are grieving and possibly reading these comments, and you make some sick ass comment like that? You are lower than low.

Got a rise out of you though, didn't I?

alexa, what true compassion your post shows.

I agree whole heartedly. Thank you for posting that.

The only reason that girls like the ironically named "Hope" flash their tits on mobile phones is because someone, somewhere is putting their pussy out to the boys in 8th grade and they're getting a yard of dick and she's not. Face it, if she were getting boned as much as she apparently wanted to be getting boned, this whole picture thing would never have happened. Don't blame "the boys" or "society" or whatever it is you blame. Blame the cunts in her class that were handing out blowjobs and trim to the 13-14 year old guys. Why is this so difficult for people ton understand?

Seth,

Like I said, you are lower than low. Why don't you just go back to your mommas basement and continue playin dungeons and dragons. It is more than obvious that you are a sick freak.

From now on, I will try my hardest to ignore your disgusting comments.

I know you'll try. But I'll bet you can't do it. Read the headline "...topless photo that SHE sexted"...Right, so what we have there is (the again ironically named "Hope") putting her little teenaged chest on her mobile and sending it to some guy who was probably getting loads of pussy from her friends...

You don't want to be called a slut, then don't "sext" pictures of your tits to boys. It's much easier to just give the slit up instead.

Since when do you get to make the judgment call on what is SLUTTY my little friend?

I fu*cked around enough to know who is slutty or not, and your definition is sure interesting.

Mind me, I am now in my late twenties but showing of a little boob was not necessarily considered slutty back in the day or now as far as I am concerned. Flirt? Sure, slut? Sounds like you have some pent up issues.

I hope one day, you too get satisfaction.

Meanwhile, try and grow up little man.

"I fucked around enough to know who is slutty or not"??!!

F'in priceless comment. Just read back to yourself what you said. Priceless. What do you do to keep your trailer warm- charge the maintenance men and janitors you f'k admission?

Haha. Priceless.

Yeah unlike you, pancy, I fu*ked around a lot when I was young dude.

I can tell you have some issues, but do try and get laid once in a while. It will help with your "special needs".

Hilarious.

(It's "pansy", not "pancy", you dumb fuck).

Hilarious, is watching you stick to semantics instead of debating the real argument here.

Though, pathetic would be more accurate.

Don't feed the troll, guys.

Seth, someday someone close to you will have trouble, i hope karma forgets how insensitive ur being towards this family. U obviously have no idea how hard it is to raise kids, man i hope God takes it easy on you..

I hope she r.i.p

"Seth" your a sick fuck, but at least you have redeemable qualities because you stir up the pot, make people think and make me laugh my ass off!!

As for "Wow" like I said in the other post you just come across as a disingenuous judgmental poofter and I doubt there is anything redeeming about you.

Seth, you are dead on with your comment that deserves to be re-posted...

"The only reason that girls like the ironically named "Hope" flash their tits on mobile phones is because someone, somewhere is putting their pussy out to the boys in 8th grade and they're getting a yard of dick and she's not. Face it, if she were getting boned as much as she apparently wanted to be getting boned, this whole picture thing would never have happened. Don't blame "the boys" or "society" or whatever it is you blame. Blame the cunts in her class that were handing out blowjobs and trim to the 13-14 year old guys. Why is this so difficult for people ton understand?"

Cell phones are the worst invention of all time. Note to kids: DON'T take nude photos of yourself to impress some guy - 99% of the time they end up bragging about it to their friends.

Seth's comments are the equivilent of a 13 year old texting nude photos. They are a desperate cry for attention and should be seen as the tragic need for true love that they are. Ignore him and pray for him. He thrives off of attention, even negative attention.

I pray the Lord Jesus helps Seth discover that he is loved and accepted by Christ as he is. I also pray that other young people recieve the love and affirmation they need and not fall victim the way Hope did.
Grace and peace in the name of Christ Jesus.

This is such a shame. Poor girl.

There is so much pressure on teens today, you have this going on all over america. The truth is, kids are cruel, and are going to continue to be cruel. If they see 1/2 the school taunting someone they're going to jump on the bandwagon.

Hope should have used better judgement, but what was done was done. Sometimes we arent strong enough to live through the ridicule, this poor girl wasnt. I wish there was another way for her.

Seth, just because you can't get any from any girl, or guy for that matter, doesn't make you look less dumb by posting your heartless comments. You are an ingrate and would ONLY say these online. I guarantee you that if you were face to face with me, you would NOT be speaking that way. Tiny dicks like you are grasping at straws in any way they can to avoid anyone making fun of THEM. You are pathetic, and you are sad. Pathetic, sad, moronic, idiotic, ridiculous, whatever else. You are. You think showing your 'tits' make you a slut? Wow, you must really be afraid of the world and your mommy must be keeping you close under her wing. I bet you never want to see tits. I bet you would rather see your mommy's tits for the rest of your life. And I bet your mommy lets you. Or maybe you force your mommy to show you her tits. Do you call your mommy a whore? Is your mommy a whore? Is that why you were born? Your mommy whored around? Probably, very sad. Product of a whore....that's what SETH is!!! Who's the whore? Seth's mommy!!!

God's Cop & Don Baker....why feed ignorance? Are you the same type of people who will spurt out the 'N' word if you see one other person say so? I bet. I bet you are and I also will wager that you two are the type that sits by the side lines and when something is said that you feel strongly about, you explode inside and put a little out there. She is dead. She killed herself! And you think that its right to do what you are doing? You think its funny someone killed themselves? Or that is what is expected? What the fuck is wrong with this world where we have people as bitch-ass as you two are. I have a feeling that Seth, Don Baker and God's Cop were three of the many that taunted this girl. May she rest in peace and may you three writhe in pain for a long time.

For those of you with hate in your hearts:

Deus omnipotens,
Laus tibi et Jesu Christo et Spiritui Sancto,
Defensor Caeli,
Custos contra malum.

Per has preces te invocamus
Ut hunc daemonem vincas
Satanam, qui profanus est
Et plenus sceleris et malitiae et fraudis.
Libera de nobis hunc dolorem.*

Remitte hoc malum** in foveas gehennae
Ubi sempiternum incendetur,
Hunc animum liberans de quo vitam furatus est..
Ut hic animus iter liber sit.

In nomine Christi,
Te hoc corpus relinquere cogo.
In nomine*** Patris et Filii et Spiritus Sancti.,
Amen.

RIP Hope, you are an angel now.

Shove it Blaire! I think Seth has some very valid points albeit while using profane and inappropriate descriptive language...

Not bothering responding to Seth because he is beneath notice.

But I do have a question for Blaire: this whole incident (and this online "conversation") came about because of the exploitation, slut-shaming and misogyny that all women experience to some degree, from other women as well as men, and which a 13 year old would be particularly vulnerable to. Seth's comment ridicules with the same poisonous attitudes and policing of "sluttiness". He made the comments, he is responsible for them. Why would you blame his mother and make "slut" judgments about her? It's ironic that you are defending Hope against Seth's criticisms and then deploying the same woman-hating rhetoric to belittle him.

This is why you don't SEXTING...
But i have to say this could happen to anyone's child,
so that is way i don't let my kids have a cell phone till their 18 or they move out...

yeah bullies are everywhere rip ma ma...

I think its sad that she thought she should kill herself because of what everybody was saying. But its not anyones fault but hers because the picture got out. Nobody made her do anything she choose to do it herself. Not only did she do it once she did it twice. I dont see how anybody could screw up twice for the same thing.

I fully agree with Kadeco. I understand that everybody has to learn from there mistakes. But why in the world would she do it twice and not think the consequences would be worse. But i dont think she should have killed herself over something so stupid. Her parents shouldnt have let her off easily they did the right thing for punishing her just like every other parent would. So we cant blame the parents for anything because they couldnt have prevented the picture from being sent. I dont see how anybody can blame someone else for this. Hope should have known better than to do it twice. But may she rest in peace.

Don Baker and "God's" Cop,

For one, what bothered me most about Seth's comments was the language he used. That is just wrong and disrespectful. As I stated above, her family and friends might one day find this site and read the horrible things he has said. Can you imagine what that would be like? Probably not as it seems you have no heart or you wouldn't be egging this idiot on.

And why not put some blame on the "boys"? If boys would learn to respect girls, things like this could be prevented. Its the other girls fault because they, in a nicer way than you 3 have put it, "put out"? How stupid does that sound? Last I knew it took two to tango. Its a two way street, but, as usual you blame the girls.

I really hope that none of you have any contact with a young girl, whether she is a daughter or neice or neighbor. It seems pretty obvious that you think little of them and have no regard for their feelings. And who cares if she sent a pic to a boy? Have you never done anything that you later regretted?! I know I have, and I will probably do so again in the future. Its human nature to make mistakes.

And just for "God's" Cop:

I have read several of your other comments. It may just be me, but I think its a little disgusting to put your name as "God's" Cop and then use the language that you use. I for one as a Christain find that very offensive and just down right disgusting.

But, you do have a point. Seth's comments did make me think. It made me think even more that there are some very disgusting sick freaks out there and many more who also think like him like you and Don Baker. And that fact alone makes me fearful for my daughter.

I know this is a free country and we have freedom of speech, but the next time you have a brain fart and feel the need to write disgusting comments, think twice. I think this poor girls family has suffered enough without having to one day possibly read your comments.

Another kid sacrificed to the foolishness and hypocrisy of her elders.
We provide kids with endless toys and programming, subtle messaging, conditioning, media-fed - then expect them to navigate this minefiend without screwing up once in awhile.
They are our mirror, and we avoid looking in it, or worse, never notice how cracked the mirror is.
No kid has to die like that; it is never justified.
Yes, society let her down, big-time.
She was just 13 years old, people.
Have we become a society whose power structure actually hates youth? An interesting question, I think - considering how the power elite yaps on endlessly about so-called "family" values.
Those with age and experience had the tough fibre necessary to give this kid a helping hand, and their failure is the reason she's dead.
Why is it....it is only after the fact, that those most closely connected finally stop to consider the error of their judgements? How many more lambs go to the slaughter...and are the lessons ever finally learned?

I am raising a child myself and i understand it's very difficult but the issue at hand was that this young girl had little common sense. This is not something new or something unheard of. Didn't the media make a big scene when Vanessa Hudgens did the same thing?..as well as countless others have? If you send a nude picture of yourself to someone else there is always the possibility that others will see it. You don't have to be a genius to know that. And why the need to send a nude picture (not only once but twice) when you're 13-years-old? What was the purpose? it can't just be to get someone's attention, there had to be more than that..I know that previous comments haven't all been "overly sweet" about what people think were the reasons why she did it but they all make a valid point.

That's is so sad -Tears-. =[

I would just like the family to know that my thoughts & prayers are with them during such a difficult time. I am the mother of a 15 year old girl that is going through the SAME thing. My daughter sent a similar picture to her boyfriend & in turn he sent it to some others that sent it again....I think you get the picture. My daughter was the "good girl" she was NEVER in any trouble. She was a straight A student, varsity cheerleader, member of the Beta Club & FCA. The faculty of her school told me they thought that's why her pic spread so fast. They had known of several pics going around of other girls but none spread like hers. Since this happened she was suspended from school & kicked off the cheer squad. I asked her if she wanted to change schools & she declined. She went back to school after her suspension & got up in front of the cheer squad & apologized to them for "letting them down". We are going on 3 months now & still some days are unbearable for her. She will come home crying because the kids call her names, throw things at her, & threaten to harm her. She has been in counseling & I talk with her everyday about the things going on at school.
I have read a lot of harsh comments & it just kills my soul that people can be so cruel. Yes, the girls that do this have "issues" they have low self esteem, horrible body images, and in most cases they lack a male figure in their lives. In the case of my daughter, she has very low self esteem & I had no clue. I mean she is the girl that I always wanted to be in high school & I could not understand for the life of me WHY she would do such a thing. In a counseling session she said she just wanted someone to tell her she was pretty. I know some will say if I would have paid more attention this wouldn't have happened. I can assure you, that's not the case. I did check her phone randomly as well as facebook & myspace. She told me that her boyfriend asked for the pic so she took it sent it & immediately deleted it.
I pray everyday that my child doesn't end up like poor Hope. I commend her parents for making her story public & trying to open eyes to this issue.
Please remember EVERYONE makes mistakes.
May peace be with Hope.

Wow..Thats all I have to say for the peolple you know who u are. some of your comments.. really..Man I would be embarrased to be your friend or even to know u.. maybe you were bullied and thats the cause of your anger..The issue I have is yes she should not have did sexting or what ever. But she is a kid and not the only one doing it these days. Her school should haver steped in and helped controll the situation better. The Counselors at her school should have told her parents about the thought of suicide. Poor thing..Her poor family. my heart is with you.

Look Suzy....be strong....be strong.. talk and let them talk...........but dont ever give in....let them say what needs to be said..you r going to have to be there no matter what...ask the question have you had sex...and if yes dont get mad.. get even....

im not sure but i think a couple pf people have a problem with my comment. so what ever i am 14 and i dont go around taking pictures of my boobs and send them to people i dont know. i really dont care what the rest of you think because unlike some of you i am a somebody and my OPINIONS COUNT!

Oh Shit,
I am already scared shitless about my daughter becoming a teenager and she is only 3 1/2! Well that seals the deal, when my daughter gets a cellphone I'm DESTROYING the camera first thing (because we all know that 99.9% of the cellphones are gonna have cameras in them in 2020, amongst other things) Oh well at least she has a lil brother now to protect her. :P

Hope was an awesome friend..she was always there not matter what happened she wanted to help. The thing im saying is all these articles keep going up about her and there only focus is onn the negative! I for one knew Hope and she said that she wanted to be known for the GOOD things she's done yet they sit there and ignore that plee! For all the people that sit on there computer calling her a 'slut' or 'whore' you really need to stop you didnt know her so DONT JUDGE HER!!!
I Love nd miss you Hope!!

i agree with ashley. you people are looking at the negative,not the things she has asked to be remembered for,which is her amazing ability to be such a loving and nice person.and you who are discriminating against the parents please just shut up.you didn't know hope OR her parents which were all great people.everyone who actually did know hope loved her,and if they didn't,its because the had some issues,or were jealous of her.my cousin to this day is the BEST person i have ever met,and i doubt that will ever change.so to the people that just LOVE to judge others serious and tragic situations,please don't,it hurts.i miss you hopey,love you FOREVER-shell shell

Good point, Kadeco. Hope ended up not getting the attention she was hoping for, again. Seth lays it out good and clear. As scandalous as it may seem, there is the need to be accepted, and rivalry for looks and desirability amongst teens in today's tough materialistic and 'hopeless' society... Interesting how this poignant tragedy can bring out the beast in some who fail to face the truth.

Pete, I wish you would STOP taking my blogs off, because you don't like my opinion on the topics. Pick on someone else. When you interfer like you are with the blogs that you picking and choosing from the bloggs no longer make sence. Seth and olympic's information along with marie heck are confusing. This site is to have differences of oppions, agree or disagree. That is what life is all about. That is how problems are solved.
No the dirty lanuage needs to stop, but what you are doing is picking out people you don't like. I do not agree with you and that does not give you the right to single me out.
You are a news site to inform the pubic right?

Blaire,
I read over what you posted, it's been a while since you have blogged. You have a lot of heart in what you speak. It comes through in your blogs."Blaire I also wanted to share with you, that you kept me laughing most of the night. I went back and found what you said to that f..k... Seth.Great blogging. Hope" made a bad choise. I talked to my 15 year old son about sexting, he said," it has been going on a long time." He also said," boys and girls are both doing it." He told me that," when the girls do it, the guys think their sluts, it is all right when the guys do the sexting." That's does not say much how women are thought of even today, almost 2010. Before there are responses to this blog, if you have a mother, sister, wife, daughter, girlfriend, aunt, grandmother are the roles equal in society between man and women? Do we as a society Stereotypes and that guides our judgement?

Hello... does anyone know how I can get in contact with the family of Hope? Possibly her mother, Donna? I am a producer at NBC and we are doing a teen segment about texting.. I would love to have her (or anyone who has a daughter going through this situation) as a guest speaker.

Please call me ASAP or pass on my number!

Thank you all!
Kim
877-836-3428
talktv09@gmail.com

correction to the last blog..

...we are doing a teen segment on SEXTING...

sorry for the error

This is just heartbreaking.

thats just pure heartbreak it really breaks my heart to know that a 13yr old girl had to go through all the shit that she went through

This is a terrible tragedy that could have been prevented....so the girl made a mistake the kids at school should have been advised to leave it alone ignore that it happened tormenting her is so harsh mistakes are made they are a part of life, she should have some counseling after the fact.