Marcia Usher Calls 911 To Ask For Help Finding A Place To Pee In The Woods

I hope that's not the case with her, but who knows? In any case, she very smart and extremely committed to her goal, which is to become a veterinarian (a goal she's been unwavering about since she was three) so hopefully that will steer her in the right direction and keep her on path. Only time will tell. All I can do is my best, which I strive for every day, and leave the rest up to her and God...

That is so good that she is confident. At least she has good male role models who know how to treat women and their families. Sounds like she is going to be just fine. 

I was very insecure & fearful growing up and I tried to hide it by acting like I was tough and didn't take shit off people. 

Well she has her pappaw (who is both my stepdad and her sunday school teacher), who's quite affectionate. And I'm not saying Mike doesn't hug her at all, I think he's just a bit leery of misinterpretation, so he isn't often the one who innitiates. But I'll agree it's sad. I've tried talking to him about it, and probably will again when I can find the right way to word without sounding like I'm try to pimp out my daughter or something crazy. I do feel like she's on the right track. Her confidence level is something to be in awe of. (She has a friend who once told me she wished she had my daughters confidence to say what she means and stick up for herself no matter what.) Which I think is probably where I went a little slutty as a teen.

Well, for what its worth - even from a non weed smoker - weed is prob the least of your worries too. I mean, if one of your kids happens to have an addiction prob to something stronger, then he prob has "the gene" and it was inhereited from one of you. But now is the time to educate them about drugs and how fucked up they can make a person's life.

I have never told my kids about all the crap I did as a teen and you are wise to lie your ass off and still feel good about yourself.  I did.

I think its great that Mike is doing these things, like career day for her. She is obviously soaking it all up. She prob does want/need/desire fatherly affection so maybe you and Mike can talk to someone and figure out how to give her that. Its pitifully sad that Mike can't hug/kiss her like a dad would. Just sad. Girls need that at least once a week.  

Mike said he started while he was in the Air Force too. Both of my parents smoked and three out of four of their kids are smokers now.

I just always tell my kids that I will forever wish that I'd never started. They see me struggle to quit while living with cancer and hopefully that will be deterent enough as far as the drugs go though, I fully plan to lie my ass off and not feel even a little bit bad about it. I don't plan to tell them that I did any when I was a teen. I do smoke weed, but it is in all honesty for medicinal purposes, and when they can personally how I struggle to eat, which they already do, I'm hoping they'll understand. I don't drink, but Mike will have the occassional beer/ glass of scotch but he always drinks responsibly w/o getting shitfaced which I think sets a good example for them.

I worry about the promiscuity thing with my daughter a lot too, and for the life of me, I have no idea how to avoid it. Her father is not in the picture, thankfully because of the kind of man he is. She does have Mike in her life, but because he is aware of our problems with JR, he's not a very hugs and kisses kind of dad. He does try very hard to show his approval in other kinds of ways though school plays and choir concerts and such. (Actually, he went this morning to her school for career day and gave a speech to the entire 6th grade, which she was talking about nonstop this afternoon.) Hopefully with that and the fact that I try my damnedest to keep her self worth at very high level it will be enough.

Fortunately [and unlike my parents] we didn't drink or smoke, etc so I didn't have to use the BS line "do as I say, not as I do". I know from experience that wouldn't work. It didn't with me, my bro or sis. All you can really do is be honest with them, and show them what the abuse of substances do to a person....all the crazy shit, lock up etc. Then pray to god they exercise good judgment and make wise choices.  I really think that if you and Mike are living a good life, are honest, decent, law abiding people, you won't have any problems with your kids. They might smoke but hell, that is nothing these days. 

I worried more about my daughter having issues that would make her promiscous [sp]. We went so out of our way to ensure that she had all the "daddy" time, love and affection she needed because we've seen how the lack of can affect a girls sense of self and their need for male attention. This was honestly my greatest fear....that we would in some small way, let her down in this respect. 

LOL, I was rebellious too. And always felt because of that I DESERVED the worst kids. But, I don't feel that way any more. The majority of reasons that I rebelled were from the things I was lacking at home. My parents deserved me. Maybe you can't say the same but I believe that every parent who puts forth their best, deserves good kids, no matter what they were like as a kid.

I'm a smoker but you know it's funny, my son never smoked until he got in the Navy... lmao and on the ride home his first time on leave, I was driving and all of a sudden he fired one up...lmao.. I was like WTF????  and we both started laughing... then I said, bet you won't do that around your dad...lmao...non smoker.... of course he said...no I don't think so...

My oldest is only twelve so we haven't made it to that stage yet but God am I dreading it. She's a very eager to please child so maybe I'll get lucky and it won't be an issue with her, but somehow I doubt I'll get off that easy. Of course even if I do there still are the other two. Statistically, we're going to at least have to deal with them smoking cigarettes since Mike and I are both smokers, which sucks ass enough.

I think I would notice too if my kids were high. Fortunately, they have so far had enough respect not to do that when in our home. That we know of. Except once when we did catch my son [he had just smoked a joint]  when we came home unannounced. Well, we never did that again. Always call from then on to make sure they were on the up AND up and they had the house cleaned up, etc. LOL. 

My mother was kind of manic/depressive so we always walked on egg shells so as not to piss her off. 

I know because he is probably young enough to be my son. LOL. 

LMAO...too funny!

 LOL it's not premature if you shout "I WIN!" when it happens.

....or shoot someone

That would definitely be worse.